Lekcja #21  Jump – The Pointer Sisters (1983)

Lekcja #21 Jump – The Pointer Sisters (1983)

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Zadanie 1. Wysłuchaj piosenki z youtube jednocześnie czytając tekst. O czym mówią słowa?

Your__________ tell me how you ___________ me
I can ___________ it in your heart beat
I know you like what you ________________
Hold me, I’ll ____________ all that you need
Wrap your love _____________me
You’re so ____________, I can feel you
Getting hotter, oh baby

I’ll take you down, I’ll take you down
Where no one’s ever gone _______________
And if you want more, if you want more, more, more, then

CHORUS: Jump for my love
                                               Jump in and _______ my touch
Jump if you want to____________ my kisses
In the night then

Jump, jump for my love
Jump, I know my ________ can make you ____________
Jump in, you know these ______________
Can feel you up
Jump, you want to _____________ my kisses
In the night then
Jump, jump for my love

 

You told me, I’m the only __________ for you
____________ does you like I do
Then ____________ a move before you try and
Go much farther, oh baby
You are the one, you are the one
And ___________ waits here at my door
And if you want more,
If you want more, more, more then

Zadanie 2. Uzupełnij luki w piosence słowami poniżej.

feel, taste (2x), heart, woman, heaven, happy, arms, want, feel, give, around, before, excited, eyes, see, Nobody, make

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  • A hit in the summer of 1984, this energetic love song got a nice boost[1] from the 1984 Summer Olympics, which were held in Los Angeles. The video showed various leaping athletes competing in events like the long jump, high jump and triple jump.
  • The Pointer Sisters made some of the most popular soul dance records of the first half of the 1980s. The lead singer on many of their most dynamic performances was June Pointer, the youngest of the four sisters, who has died of cancer aged 52.

She was born in Oakland, California, the youngest of six children. Her parents were ministers[2] of the West Oakland Church of God where their offspring sang in the choir, but at home they enforced a strict ban on dancing, listening to the radio and secular music. Nevertheless, the children would wait till their parents left the house and, as June told an interviewer in 1981, “get in the back room and beat pie pans with spoons, making that rhythm and jamming together”.

The punishment for doing what Elton Pointer called “the devil’s work” was a whipping[3]. Despite (or because of) this, June and her sister Bonnie began to perform in the nightclubs of San Francisco in the late 1960s.

The Pointers “weren’t the typical black women singers. They were very independent-minded and they shopped at thrift[4] shops and had a whole ’40s look”. That look, with floral dresses, feather boas and wide-brimmed[5] hats brought frequent television appearances.

Throughout her career, June had been a heavy user of drugs and alcohol and in 2000 she told People magazine that drugs had been part of her life since the age of 13 and in the mid-1970s she had suffered a nervous breakdown. At the time of the interview, June had conquered her addiction but soon relapsed and was expelled from the group in 2003. Her replacement was Ruth’s daughter Issa.

Subsequently, June was arrested for drug possession and assault on her boyfriend. She was sentenced to 18 months in rehab last year, but in February she suffered a stroke and was diagnosed with the cancer that killed her. She is survived by her mother, her sisters and two brothers.

 

[1] help or encourage (something) to increase or improve.

[2] a member of the clergy, especially in the Presbyterian and Nonconformist Churches.

[3] a thrashing or beating with a whip or similar implement.

[4] the quality of using money and other resources carefully and not wastefully.

[5] fill something so completely that it almost overflows.

Zadanie 4. Uzupełnij definicje słowami, które są wyróżnione (na grubo). Słowa mogą być w tekście piosenki, lub w komentarzach.

1. __________________ different from one another; of different kinds or sorts.
2. _______________ a person’s child or children.
3. ________________ jump or spring a long way, to a great height, or with great force.
4. _______________ (of a sick or injured person) deteriorate after a period of improvement.
5. _______________ officially make (someone) leave a school or other organization.
6. ________________ make a physical attack on.
7. _______________ a course of treatment for drug or alcohol dependence, typically at a residential facility.
8. ________________ compel observance of or compliance with (a law, rule, or obligation).
9. _______________ officially prevent (someone) from doing something.
10. ___________________ in spite of that; notwithstanding; all the same.
11. ______________ improvise with other musicians, especially in jazz or blues.
12. ________________ the infliction or imposition of a penalty as retribution for an offence.

Zadanie 5. Posłuchaj piosenki jeszcze raz zastanawiając się: o czym ona jest? Możesz teraz zauważyć, na ile twoje pierwsze wrażenie po odsłuchaniu piosenki były słuszne.

Lekcja #20  A Kind of Magic – Queen (1986)

Lekcja #20 A Kind of Magic – Queen (1986)

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Zadanie 1. Wysłuchaj piosenki z youtube jednocześnie czytając tekst. O czym mówią słowa?

It’s a kind of magic (2x)

A kind of magic – no way

One ________________, one_______________, one _______________

One goal, one ________ ____________ of what should be[1]

It’s a kind of magic

One shaft of __________ that shows the ______________

No ___________ man can win this day[2]

It’s a kind of magic

The ___________  that rings inside your mind

Is challenging the ________ ____ _____________

It’s a kind of magic

The waiting seems _______________

The day will dawn of _________________

Ooh ooh ooh ooh

___________  this a kind of magic?

It’s a kind of magic

There can be _______ _____________

This ________  that lasts a thousand years

Will __________ be done

This _____________ that burns inside of me

I’m hearing ______________  harmonies

It’s a kind of magic

The ___________  that rings inside your mind

Is challenging the ________ ____ _____________

 

[1] This is talking about the soul transcending from the body, to see what heaven/afterlife will be like

[2] This is talking about the light leading to the afterlife… reaching it means you are mortal and will cease to exist

Zadanie 2. Uzupełnij luki w piosence słowami poniżej.

rage, sanity, dream, prize, light, doors of time, eternity, golden glance, flame, soul, way, mortal, bell, only one, is, soon, secret,

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  1. The idea for the song came from a scene in the Highlander movie, when Connor McLeod get’s shot by a German soldier, while he’s holding a little girl Rachel (who became his assisten later on), so he falls down,but he isn’t death and the girl askes him “why didn’t you die” he reply’s “hey, It’s a kind of magic”
  2. This song talks about something we all have inside (the bell that rings inside your mind), some sort of inherent magical sense (I´m hearing secret harmonies), that lets us know that things could be better, and that it’s up to us (a golden glance of what should be). It could be seen as some sort of divine illumiantion, the feeling that makes you see that there is something greater, something eternal (lasts a thousand years, challenges the doors of time, the waiting seems eternity), that kind of sets the order of things, and through connecting with this kind of magic, you could have a glimpse of what should be. It also is optimistic since it says that rage will soon be done, and the day will dawn os sanity when the eternal wait ands.
  3. Highlander is a 1986 fantasy action-adventure film directed by Russell Mulcahy and based on a story by Gregory Widen. The film chronicles the climax of an ages-old war between immortal warriors, depicted through interwoven past and present-day storylines.

Zadanie 4. Uzupełnij definicje słowami, które są wyróżnione (na grubo). Słowa mogą być w tekście piosenki, lub w komentarzach.

  1. __________________ (of a living human being, often in contrast to a divine being) subject to death.
  2. _____________________ a thing given as a reward to the winner of a competition or in recognition of an outstanding achievement.
  3. _____________________ a hot glowing body of ignited gas that is generated by something on fire.
  4. _____________________ the ability to think and behave in a normal and rational manner; sound mental health.
  5. ____________________ violent uncontrollable anger.
  6. ______________________ infinite or unending time.
  7. ____________________ a ray of light or bolt of lightning.
  8. _______________________ take a brief or hurried look.
  9. ___________________ the most intense, exciting, or important point of something; the culmination.
  10. _________________________ come or bring to an end.
  11. ___________________ a published, broadcast, or recorded work that continues the story or develops the theme of an earlier one.
  12. _____________ an inhabitant of the Highlands of Scotland.
  13. ______________ _________________ the process of human thought needs to be aided by divine grace.
  14. _______________ see or perceive briefly or partially.
  15. __________________________ the ability to think and behave in a normal and rational manner; sound mental health.
  16. _________________ blend closely.
  17. ______________________ too powerful to be defeated or overcome.
  18. ____________________ a catchphrase or slogan, especially as used in advertising, or the punchline of a joke.
  19. ________________ anger or aggression associated with conflict arising from a particular situation.

Zadanie 5. Posłuchaj piosenki jeszcze raz zastanawiając się: o czym ona jest? Możesz teraz zauważyć, na ile twoje pierwsze wrażenie po odsłuchaniu piosenki były słuszne.

Lekcja #19  I Just Called to Say I Love You – Stevie Wonder (1984)

Lekcja #19 I Just Called to Say I Love You – Stevie Wonder (1984)

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Zadanie 1. Wysłuchaj piosenki z youtube jednocześnie czytając tekst. O czym mówią słowa?

No New Year’s Day to ____________

No chocolate covered ___________  hearts to give away

No first of ______________

No song to sing

In fact here’s just another ___________  day

No ______________  rain

No flowers ____________

No wedding ____________  within the month of June

But what it is, is _____________true

Made up of these _______ words that I must say to you

 

CHORUS: I just called to say I __________ you

                I just called to say how much I __________

                I just called to say I love you

                And I mean it from the __________ of my heart

 

No summer’s high

No warm ____________

No harvest moon to light one tender __________ night

No autumn _______________

No _____________  leaves

Not even time for birds to fly to _____________  skies

No Libra sun

No _________________

No giving thanks to all the ___________ joy you bring

But what it is, though old so new

To fill your ________  like no three words could ever do

Zadanie 2. Uzupełnij luki w piosence słowami poniżej.

ordinary, bloom, three, care, love, bottom, July, southern, breeze, Christmas, heart, celebrate, candy, spring, April, August, Saturday, Halloween, something, falling

Zadanie 3. Uzupełnij definicje słowami, które są wyróżnione (na grubo). Słowa mogą być w tekście piosenki, lub w komentarzach.

  1. _____________ sweets; confectionery.
  2. ________________ the full moon that is seen nearest to the time of the autumn equinox.
  3. __________ the state or period of flowering.

 “the apple trees were in ___________________”

  1. ______________________ a gentle wind.
  2. ________________ average, not interesting or exceptional
  3. ____________/ðəʊ/ despite the fact that; although.
  4. ______________ the night of 31 October, the eve of All Saints’ Day, often celebrated by children dressing up in frightening masks and costumes. 

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  • This song was written by Stevie to Nelson Mandela, who was imprisoned at the time (for around 30 years!) for his part in fighting against the apartheid system in place in South Africa. Apartheid was the legal racial segregation system in place since 1948. The song depicts what Mandela had missed out on each year, every year while he was in prison. While not in the song, it is worth it to mention that apartheid ended and Mandela was elected the President of South Africa in 1994 in the first democratic election of the country.
  • Stevie Wonder- An American singer, songwriter, musician and record producer. He was born six weeks premature[1] which, along with the oxygen-rich atmosphere in the hospital incubator, resulted in retinopathy of prematurity, a condition in which the growth of the eyes is aborted [2], so he became blind. “My mother always told me that I could do anything as long as I was careful,” Stevland once reflected about his childhood and inquisitive[3] He himself never considered his blindness to be a handicap[4]. He climbed trees and rode a bike. Perhaps more intensively than other children, he soaked up [5]music, spending hours listening to the radio, and later, glued to the loudspeakers of the television. He would bang on pots and pans, and taught himself every instrument he could get his hands on. At the age of nine, he could play bongo drums, harmonica, bass, and piano.
  • On the occasion of his 35th birthday, Stevie Wonder was honored by the United Nations Special Committee Against Apartheid for his stance against racism in South Africa that same year (1985).
  • South Africa bans “I Just Called to Say I Love You”

Stevie famously gave a shoutout[6] to Nelson Mandela (1918-2013), who was imprisoned at the time, when he accepted the Academy Award for this song. The negative affect of such was that it led to his music being banned in South Africa. But that incident is also recognized as an impetus [7]which led to other prominent musicians acting out against the apartheid regime.  For instance, Stevie performed this tune, to great applause, at the star-studded Nelson Mandela 70th Birthday Tribute in London in 1988.

  • Apartheid was a system of institutionalised[8] racial segregation that existed in Africa from 1948 until the early 1990s. Apartheid was characterised by an authoritarian political culture based on white supremacy[9], which ensured that South Africa was dominated politically, socially, and economically by the nation’s minority [10]white population. According to this system of social stratification[11], white citizens had the highest status, followed by Asians and Coloureds, then black Africans. The economic legacy and social effects of apartheid continue to the present day.

[1] occurring or done before the usual or proper time; too early.

[2] bring to a premature end because of a problem or fault.

[3] having or showing an interest in learning things; curious.

[4] a circumstance that makes progress or success difficult.

[5] to absorb or enjoy something that exists around you

[6] (especially in hip-hop or dance music) a mention, credit, or greeting, typically one made over the radio or during a live performance.

[7] something that makes a process or activity happen or happen more quickly.

[8] establish (something, typically a practice or activity) as a convention or norm in an organization or culture.

[9] the state or condition of being superior to all others in authority, power, or status.

[10] a small group of people within a community or country, differing from the main population in race, religion, language, or political persuasion.

[11] the arrangement or classification of something into different groups.

Zadanie 5. Posłuchaj piosenki jeszcze raz zastanawiając się: o czym ona jest? Możesz teraz zauważyć, na ile twoje pierwsze wrażenie po odsłuchaniu piosenki były słuszne.

Lekcja #18 Sesame Street: Ernie and his Rubber Duckie (1970)

Lekcja #18 Sesame Street: Ernie and his Rubber Duckie (1970)

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Zadanie 1. Wysłuchaj piosenki z youtube jednocześnie czytając tekst. O czym mówią słowa?

Well, here I am in my tubby again. And my tubby’s all filled with water and nice _________ suds. And I’ve got my _______  and washcloth to wash myself. And I’ve got my nifty scrub brush to help me scrub my __________. And I’ve got a big fluffy towel to _______ myself when I’m done. But there’s one other thing that makes tubby time the very best time of the whole day. And do you know what that is? It’s a very special friend of mine, my very favorite little __________.

 

Rubber duckie you’re the ____________

You make bath time lots of ______________

Rubber duckie I’m __________  fond of you

Rubber duckie __________  of joys

When I _________ you, you make __________

Rubber duckie you’re my very best friend it’s true

 

CHORUS: Oh, every day when I make my ______ to the tubby

I find a little ___________ who’s cute and _______  and chubby

Rub-a-dub-dubby

Rubber duckie, you’re so___________

And I’m lucky that you’re _________

Rubber duckie, I’m ____________ fond of you

Hey, rubber duckie would you like me to scrub your back with my little nifty scrub brush? You would okay, how’s this? Hey, you want me to scrub behind your__________? Oh, I see you don’t have any ears, do you? Well, how about your _________? Scrub his little duckie tummy.  Oh, he’s ticklish oh-hoo

Zadanie 2. Uzupełnij luki w piosence słowami poniżej.

soap, one, fun, squeeze, fellow, fluffy, joy, dry, awfully (2x), way, fine , yellow, mine, ears, tummy, back, pal, noise

Zadanie 3. Uzupełnij definicje słowami, które są wyróżnione (na grubo). Słowa mogą być w tekście piosenki, lub w komentarzach.

1.__________________ particularly good, skilful, or effective; attractive or stylish.
2._______________(of a person) sensitive to being tickled (lightly touch in a way that causes mild discomfort or itching and often laughter)
3.____________a friend. “we’ve been pals for a long time” Similar: companion, comrade
4._________ froth made from soap and water.
5.____________ rub (someone or something) hard so as to clean them, typically with a brush and water.
6.__________ fleecy, woolly, fuzzy
7.________________ attractive in a pretty or endearing way.
8.__________ firmly press (something soft or yielding), typically with one’s fingers.
9.______________ plump and rounded.
10.__________________ a tough elastic polymeric substance made from the latex of a tropical plant or synthetically.
11.________________ a person’s stomach or abdomen.

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  • “Rubber Duckie” is a song sung by the Muppet character Ernie (voiced by Jim Henson) on Sesame Street. The song is named after Ernie’s toy, a rubber duck affectionately named Rubber Duckie. It was nominated for the Grammy Award for Best Recording for Children in 1971.
  • James Maury Henson (1936 –1990) was an American puppeteer, animator, cartoonist, actor, inventor, filmmaker, and screenwriter who achieved worldwide notice as the creator of The Muppets (1955–present) and Fraggle Rock (1983–1987); puppeteer and puppet character creator for Sesame Street (1969-present).
  • Wise Quacks: A History of the Rubber Duck: In the middle of a raging storm in 1992, a cargo ship carrying a huge assortment of vinyl toys tipped over. Descending into the Pacific were nearly 29,000 tub playthings, including untold thousands of rubber ducks. Bobbing and drifting, the tiny yellow birds took weeks, months, and years to wash ashore in Hawaii, Maine, Seattle, and other far-flung locations. Their journeys were able to telloceanographers crucial information about waves, currents, and seasonal changes—what one journalist dubbed “the conveyor belt” of the sea. The humble little rubber duck had, once again, exceeded expectations.

Aside from soap, shampoo, and towels, there may be no more pervasive an item in a kid-occupied bathtub than the rubber duck, a generic aquatic toy that usually squeaks, sometimes spits water, and can be teethed upon without incident.

The ducks had their origins in the mid-1800s, when rubber manufacturing began to gain ground. Out of the many animals crafted, they were the most native to water and broke away from the pack. Families who used to make bathing a weekly event prior to Sunday church sessions would entice children to submerge themselves in the murky tubs with a duck, some of which didn’t float. They were intended as chew toys.

By the early 1960s, the vinyl ducks became a bathroom fixture. They were cheaply made, cheaply acquired, and a soothing presence for children with apprehensions about being dipped into water. Any hydrophobia was eased by the bright yellow duck, who didn’t appear to have a care in the world.

Rubber Duckie, you’re the one…The song went on to sell over 1 million copies as a single and has been included in more than 20 different Sesame Street compilation albums. The image of Ernie playing with the duck was licensed for T-shirts, storybooks, and other merchandise that further endeared the ducks to child-occupied households.

Zadanie 5. Uzupełnij definicje słowami, które są wyróżnione (na grubo). Słowa mogą być w tekście piosenki, lub w komentarzach.

1.________________ (especially of an unwelcome influence or physical effect) spreading widely throughout an area or a group of people.
2.________________ anxiety or fear that something bad or unpleasant will happen.
3._________________ make a quick, short movement up and down.
4.__________ _______________ a continuous moving band of fabric, rubber, or metal used for transporting objects from one place to another.
5._______________ attract or tempt by offering pleasure or advantage.
6.______________ in a way that displays fondness or tenderness.
7._______________continuing with great force or intensity.

Zadanie 6. Posłuchaj piosenki jeszcze raz zastanawiając się: o czym ona jest? Możesz teraz zauważyć, na ile twoje pierwsze wrażenie po odsłuchaniu piosenki były słuszne.

Jeśli piosenka ci się podoba, możesz nauczyć się jej na pamięć i śpiewać razem z nagraniem. Oczywiście po angielsku! Chcesz zanurzyć się w języku i szybko nauczyć się angielskiego!

Lekcja #17 Patsy Cline – Back in Baby’s Arms (1969)

Lekcja #17 Patsy Cline – Back in Baby’s Arms (1969)

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Zadanie 1. Wysłuchaj piosenki z youtube jednocześnie czytając tekst. O czym mówią słowa?

CHORUS:  I’m back in baby’s arms

How I __________________ those lovin’ arms

I’m back _____________________ I belong

Back in baby’s arms

 

Don’t ___________________ why we quarreled

We never did __________________

___________we found out how it hurts

I bet we never quarrel ______________

CHORUS: I’m back…

Thought I didn’t ___________________his love

‘Til he took it __________________

Now I’m back __________________ I belong

And in my baby’s arms I’m gonna _________________

Zadanie 2. Uzupełnij luki w piosence słowami poniżej.

stay, missed, where (2x), before, anymore, since, need, away, know

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  • Patsy Cline’s personal life (1932–1963)

                    In 1953, Patsy married Gerald E. Cline, thus picking up [1]the last name she would keep for the rest of her life. Gerald, however, she chose not to keep. Encyclopedia Virginia reveals that she had an affair with Bill Peer, but she broke things off with him and separated from her husband in 1955. By 1957 she’d divorced the latter in time to marry her new beau[2], a linotype operator named Charles Allen Dick. (Needless to say, she passed on adopting that last name for professional reasons.)

                    After Patsy and Charles wed[3], she found herself back to scraping[4] by, performing small local gigs as her new husband served a stint[5] in the army, stationed at Ft. Bragg in North Carolina. As Patsy had a baby to care for (the first of two kids she and Charles would have), she was unable to go on tour. Once Charles’ enlistment was up, though, the couple relocated to Nashville where her star once again began to shine

  • Patsy Cline’s tragic death

    Early in the morning on March 5, 1963, Patsy and two fellow Opry stars, Cowboy Copas and Hawkshaw Hawkins, were flying back to Nashville from a Kansas City benefit concert. The small plane they flew in was piloted by Randy Hughes, who was himself an Opry session guitarist and the son-in-law of Copas as well as being Patsy’s manager. Shortly after taking off from a refueling [6]stop, Hughes lost control of his Piper PA-24 Comanche due to poor visibility and the plane crashed outside of Camden, Tennessee. There were no survivors.

                    There was a memorial service in Nashville for all four performers lost in the crash, where the Wilmington Star News relates that June Carter was in tears and fans paid tribute with floral arrangements shaped like musical instruments, cowboy hats, and boots. After this service, Patsy’s remains were returned to her hometown of Winchester for burial.

Things You Should Never Do After a Fight With Your Partner

         It’s completely normal — and healthy — for couples to argue. You’re two separate people, and you’re going to have different opinions sometimes. You might have heard of some of those classic techniques for how to fight fair, like only using statement starting with “I” or trying not to call names.

                But what you might not realize is that how you act after a fight can be as important to your relationship as what you say in the heat of the moment. Here are some reactions to avoid, whether you’re totally over it or still working on that whole forgive-and-forget thing.

1.Don’t disrespect your partner’s need for space.

“In a fight, when one partner is overwhelmed, they may not be able to process their thoughts,” Dr. Megan Flemming, clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist, tells Woman’s Dat. “Which is why it’s important to respect when someone says ‘I need a break.'” It can be natural to feel anxious if your partner needs some time to cool off and collect their thoughts — if this happens, take a few deep breaths and think about how’d you want to be treated if the roles were reversed. “Understand that it’s not personal,” says Dr. Flemming.

  1. Don’t have an all-or-nothing mentality.

After a heated argument with your partner, try to keep an open mind. In the midst of a fight, it can be easy to slip into black-or-white thinking. Dr. Flemming says using terms like “you always” or never” will never solve an argument, so it’s important to take a step back once things have cooled off to consider the argument from your partner’s point of view.

3.Don’t give them the cold shoulder.

If you need some space after a fight, that’s completely fine, as long as you tell them. “One of the biggest mistakes people make after an argument is stonewalling[7],” Rachel A. Sussman, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert in New York City, tells Woman’s Day. If you brush your partner off or ignore them, they may think you’re punishing them, which may make them hold back on telling you how they feel in the future. Instead, say, “My emotions don’t recede as quickly as yours, but give me 24 hours and I’m sure things will be fine. If not, we can discuss more.”

  1. Don’t keep their words in your arsenal.

You know the saying, “what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas”? Whatever your partner says during a fight should stay there. “List-makers never tell their partners what bothers them in the moment,” =Michelle Golland, PsyD, a clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, tells Woman’s Dat. So if they say something during the fight that bugs[8] you, tell them their words are frustrating you. If their fighting words annoy you the next day, give yourself some breathing room instead of approaching them again so soon. Bringing up an argument too often can lead to talking in circles, not a resolution.

  1. Don’t just say, “I’m sorry” if they’re still hurt.

That says, “I’m sick of this. Leave me alone. I want to do something else,” Laurie Puhn, a couples mediator and author of Fight Less, Love More, tells Woman’s Day. “What you want to say is, ‘I’m sorry for…’ and explain what you’re talking about. The second part of the apology is, ‘In the future, I will…’ and fill in the blank with how you won’t make the mistake again.”

  1. Don’t make excuses for why you fought.

There are a million things on which you could blame[9] an argument: a bad day at work, a headache, a restless night. In fact, a University of California Berkeley study found that couples who don’t get enough sleep are more likely to fight. Still, passing the blame isn’t fair to your or your partner. “Fights are about information,” Dr. Golland says. “If you’re angry, sad or hurt, that’s information your husband needs to know.” The next time you have a bad day at work, send a warning text before you get home, Dr. Golland suggests. That way, they know that you may be more irritable[10].

How Much Space Is TOO Much Space In a Relationship?

 

There are some phrases that can send a chill down your spine when you hear them from your partner—and if “We need to talk” is as bad as it gets, “I need some space” isn’t far behind. But the truth is, space isn’t a bad thing, even in a romantic relationship. It may make you feel a little panicky[11] if your partner says that they need some breathing room, but space can be a positive force in a relationship. In fact, it can be a great thing.

What Is Personal Space in a Relationship?

Personal space in a relationship means you’re taking time to put yourself first and do things that are just for you—choices that will make you feel great about yourself, putting you in a better mindset[12] to take care of your relationship.

The trick is to get the balance right. If your partner says they need space in your relationship, something has gone a little wrong—either with the partnership or just in their own life. So, whether you’ve been together for two months or 20 years, you need to take it seriously. The good news is that it’s an easy enough problem to fix—as long as you can balance giving them space with making sure that you don’t drift apart[13]. If you do it right, you may find that having a little distance makes you feel more grateful for each other and, ultimately[14], brings you closer together.

So how much space is too much? Here’s what you need to consider.

Why Do They Need Space?

The first thing to do is talk to your partner about why they need space. Even if you feel defensive or strange about it, remember that it’s a totally normal, reasonable request for them to make—so make sure that you question it with genuine curiosity rather than getting defensive[15]. It may be that they’re really stressed at work, or feel like they haven’t had enough time with their friends, or maybe they’re just feeling claustrophobic. When you understand what the root of the problem is, it will be easier to know how much space to give—and how to give it.

How Much Space Do They Want?

Once you talk to your partner about why they need space, try to get them to explain how you can give that to them. If they want more time to go to the gym or pursue[16] a hobby, that’s an easy one to negotiate—you can find out how many times a week they want to do that. If they want something more nebulous[17], like “more alone time,” you may need to ask them to be a little more specific about how you can help them with that.

In general, you should do your best to make it happen—within reason. If they’re saying they want to go travel the world for six months and leave you with two kids at home, you obviously have the right to put your foot down. But, in most cases, you should be able to find a compromise. If it doesn’t feel like a huge shift in your lives or something that will draw a wedge [18]between you, it’s probably OK.

How Can You Check In While Still Giving Them Space?

How do you make sure you give your partner enough space without feeling like you’re drifting away from each other? The key is to make sure that you check in regularly. Space between you doesn’t have to feel like distance between you—if you do it right. So tell your partner that you’re sorry that they’re struggling and you want to be able to give them the space they need but suggest that you check in every Sunday or every other week. It’s just a chance to touch base, see how things are progressing[19], and if your partner is feeling any better.

It’s also an opportunity to air any concerns you have and talk about how it’s affecting the relationship—positively or negatively. Even if your partner needs space, you still have your own needs that should be considered, so explain that you’ll feel better if you two can stay connected that way. Communication is key.

 

[1]take hold of and lift or move someone or something.

[2]a boyfriend or male admirer.

[3]get married to

[4]draw or move (something) along or over something else, making a harsh noise.

[5]a person’s fixed or allotted period of work.

[6]supply (a vehicle) with more fuel.

[7] delay or obstruct (a request, process, or person) by refusing to answer questions or by being evasive.

“she has also stonewalled queries about her love life”

[8] annoy or bother (someone).

[9] feel or declare that (someone or something) is responsible for a fault or wrong.

[10] having or showing a tendency to be easily annoyed.

[11] feeling or characterized by uncontrollable fear or anxiety.

[12] the established set of attitudes held by someone.

[13] (of two or more people) gradually become less intimate or friendly.

[14] finally; in the end.

[15] very anxious to challenge or avoid criticism.

“he was very defensive about that side of his life”

[16] follow or chase (someone or something).

[17] indistinct, indefinite, unclear, vague

[18] a piece of wood, metal, etc. having one thick end and tapering to a thin edge, that is driven between two objects or parts of an object to secure or separate them.

[19] develop towards an improved or more advanced condition.

Zadanie 4. Uzupełnij definicje słowami, które są wyróżnione (na grubo). Słowa mogą być w tekście piosenki, lub w komentarzach.

1._____________________ have a heated argument or disagreement.

  1. ___________________ an idea or opinion produced by thinking, or occurring suddenly in the mind; careful consideration or attention.
  2. _____________________ a small adhesive piece of paper stuck to something to show that an amount of money has been paid, in particular a postage stamp.

4.___________________ to learn by study, observation, or search : discover.

  1. ______________________ be the property of.
  2. ____________________ used to express certainty; be certain, be sure, be convinced, be confident

7.__________________- a lover or spouse (often as a form of address). “my ____________ left me for another guy”, Similar: darling, sweetheart, dearest, dear, honey

    Zadanie 5. Posłuchaj piosenki jeszcze raz zastanawiając się: o czym ona jest? Możesz teraz zauważyć, na ile twoje pierwsze wrażenie po odsłuchaniu piosenki były słuszne.

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